环球視角丨《開端》中那些引發热议的親子问题
自力去实現本身的方针網友Deeptanshu Sivaraman認為孩子要本身去寻觅方针,鼓励本身,依靠志同志合的朋侪的支撑,实現本身的方针,同時讓怙恃熟悉到真实的你。
It's alright ifthey don't understand you, quite frankly, at this age even we are not sure of what we want, in the future or now.But, if you are clear, on your goals, just stride along alone.
率直地说,若是他们不睬解你也不要紧,在這個春秋,即便咱们本身可能都不晓得本身将来或如今想要甚麼。可是,若是你對你的方针很清晰,那就独自豪步向前吧。
When you need the support, you will have to find it within you. Motivate yourself.Be strong, set goals, go after them with all might. There are many people, coming from abusive to non-existent parenting, if you have a will there is always a way. Just keep a close knit group of a few friends, with same goals, just be reliant on them.
當你必要支撑時,你必需在本身的心里找到它。鼓励本身。變得顽强,设定方针,竭尽全力地去寻求。另有不少人被凌虐或不被養育,只要你成心愿,总會有法子。只要和几個志同志合的朋侪连结密切的瓜葛,依靠他们就行了。
I would even say, get a degree, get a job, move out into the free world(Easier said than done).Maybe some time in independence, could help free your mind of anxiety,also may open the eyes of your parents.
我乃至會说,去拿個學位,找份事情,去自由的世界(提及来轻易做起来难)。或许一段時候的自力,可以帮忙你解脱心里的發急,也能够打開你怙恃的眼睛。
學會溝通
網友Richard Hom認為怙恃比起你想要的更但愿你做的是對的,而且在溝通中可能存在语气和代溝问题,以是可以站在怙恃的角度思虑對错问题,并晋升溝通技術。
Conflict resolution by negotiation is a skill that is learned and developed.
Firstly, look inside yourself. Like someone said before, meditate on not your happiness alone. Meditate on what is right and wrong.Your parents want you to be a whole lot right than you want to be.
經由過程會商解决冲突是一種進修和成长的技術。
起首,审阅本身的心里。就像以前有人说的,不要只斟酌你的幸福。思虑甚麼是對的,甚麼是错的。比起你想要的,你的怙恃更但愿你做的是對的。
Or maybe, your parents are just being too protective of you.Maybe they care for you too much. I know people who have grown up in age, but not in maturity because of this over protection. Having said all this, some idea of what is right and wrong will go a long way here.
又或,你的怙恃只是太想庇护你了。或许他们太在意你了。 我晓得有些人在春秋上长大了,但却没有由于這类過分庇护而變得成熟。说了這麼多,這里對付甚麼是對甚麼是错的一些设法将大有帮忙。
Now then,there might be issues with the your tone.Record your own argument with them once or twice on your phone. When you are calm enough, listen to it and think what went wrong where and be impartial in your judgement.Correct yourself. Think about things from their perspectiveand next time, give them a proposal that "they cannot refuse."
好吧,你的语气可能有點问题。用手機录一两次你和他们的争吵。 當你足够岑寂的時辰,听听它,想想哪里出了问题,中庸之道地作出果断。改正本身。从他们的角度斟酌问题,下次,给他们一個“他们没法回绝”的建议。
There might be perception and comprehension issues due to generation gap.Not all adults are capable of understanding this too and they are not friends with their children, but just act as parents. Respect that.Show them first you can be their friend too, by getting involved in their day to day living and talking about their problems along with them.Build a connect. They will come around to listening to you too, sometime.
因為代溝,可能會有認知和理解问题。其实不是所有的成年人都能理解這一點,他们和孩子也不是朋侪,只是饰演着怙恃的脚色淡紋面膜,。尊敬這一點。起首奉告他们你也能够成為他们的朋侪,介入他们的平常糊口,和他们一块兒评論辩論他们的问题。創建一個毗连。有時他们也會過来谛听你的设法。
And negotiation skills can be developed by undergoing various exercises with friends, which can be fun.There are lots of materials available on net enough to make you a professional hostage negotiator. Build you skills and rock the world. Remember, never forget what is generally perceived as right and wrong, because karma is a bitch.
會商技能可以經由過程和朋侪举行各类各样的操练来培育,這颇有趣。網上有不少資料足以讓你成為一位植牙,专業的人質會商专家。培育你的技術,震動世界。记着,永久不要健忘凡是被認為是對的和错的,由于最後有欣喜哦。
测验考试信赖怙恃
網友Anonymous認為怙恃不赞成你不代娛樂城,表他们不睬解你,而且他们的履历比咱们豐硕,可以试着信赖他们,岑寂、開放地與他们溝通。
How do you know they don't?Just because they may not agree with you doesn't mean they don't understand you.Ev早洩藥,ery teen thinks their parents don't understand them. In reality,the incredibly fast changes a teen faces means it's really they that don't understand themselves fully yet. No one does as a teen.The brain doesn't even mature until the mid-twenties.
你怎样晓得他们不睬解?仅仅由于他们可能分歧意你的概念其实不象征着他们不睬解你。每一個青少年都認為他们的怙恃不睬解他们。究竟上,大脑直到25岁摆布才成熟,没有人會像青少年那样脸部變革之快使人难以置信,這象征着他们尚未彻底领會本身。
Parents have not only been teenagers before, they have emerged from that stage of life successfully and gained a lot of life experience in the process. They know what it’s like to grow up, find yourself, and build a life. Maybe you could give them some credit?This doesn’t mean they know everything and are perfect, but they certainly more experienced than you. They are probably doing the best they can with what they have.
怙恃之前不但是青少年,他们已乐成地走出了這小我生阶段,并在這個進程中得到了不少人生履历。他们晓得甚麼是發展,找到自我,創建糊口。或许你能给他们點信赖?這其实不象征着他们甚麼都晓得,天衣我缝,但他们必定比你更有履历。他们可能已尽其所能了。
Also, they can't know what you are thinking or feeling unless you tell them. If there is something you need from them, let them know.Calm, open, honest co妹妹unication and mutual respect can do wonders for understanding each other.
并且,除非你奉告他们,不然他们不成能晓得你在想甚麼或感觉甚麼。 若是你必要从他们那邊获得甚麼,讓他们晓得。岑寂、開放、诚笃的溝通和互相尊敬可觉得理解對方缔造古迹。
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